I hope you enjoyed Lindsey’s post this past Tuesday about the dating habits of your teenaged daughter. I’d like to keep the theme going this week with another post about teens.
This time, I want to share seven life-saving rules for your teenaged daughter when she goes out and about. This is a discussion that is just as important as talking to them about boys.
With my daughter having moved away to attend college, I’ve been a bundle of nerves worrying about her safety when she goes out at night with her roommates (no boyfriend yet, thank goodness.)
I mean, it’s all over the news about young women being attacked. And there are articles about it too. Here’s an article I found on Seventeen.com about a college student who was picked up by a man impersonating a Uber driver. Seeing that makes me worry about her.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to tell her you can’t go out at night. Well, I haven’t directly told her but I have suggested that she take it slow when going out on the town and remind her about the rules of going out. I know I must sound like a broken record to her but I’ll be repeating it until the day she graduates, hehe.
Mom Was Right All Along
When I was my daughter’s age my mom gave me some rules for going out too and she would end our talk with ” times have changed from when I was a teenager” and “you’ll understand where I’m coming from when you have girls.”
Fast forward to the present and I find myself telling my dauther the same thing. And times have certainly changed from when I was growing up. We didn’t have to worry about someone slipping drugs into our drinks like girls do now. It’s a scarier place we live in.
I know how exciting it is to be living on your own and wanting to get to know the latest hot spots. It’s only natural for my daughter to want to explore her new surroundings. And while I can’t force her to stay home, what I can do though is talk to her about the dangers that are out there.
Here are the ground rules for when she goes out on a date or with friends. If you have a teen in your life, perhaps these life-saving rules will keep your teen safe when she goes out.
No drinking alcohol – Especially if they’re under 21 years old. If your teen is in college, they’re likely to meet someone who is old enough to buy alcohol and willing to purchase it for them. My daughter saw that first hand the first weekend she spent at her new apartment.
Do not accept drinks from strangers – The applies to water and sodas and if they’re old enough to drink, alcoholic beverages as well. It’s better she get her own drink and if she gets a bottle of water, make sure seal is not broken.
Do not leave with anyone else. For her safety it’s better she does not accept a ride from someone she just met. She should leave with the party the arrived with. If she’s driving, do not offer a guy a ride home, even if he has a story about being stranded. Sorry Charlie. I’d rather her lend him money for a cab.
Stay in groups or with your date. Tell her not to wander off alone or with a stranger. When parking her car, tell her to park in a well lit, crowded area.
Do not draw attention to yourself. Doing things like table dancing only draws negative attention. If she has dance moves, tell her to leave it on the dance floor. Tables are for eating.
Keep phone on and on hand at all times. The one thing I tell her is to answer when I call or text at all times. No matter what and no excuses.
Dress appropriately. No short skirts or shorts and no revealing shirts and remind her that less is more.
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So There You Have It
The seven life-saving rules for your teenaged daughter. You’ll probably get the rolling of the eyes and the ever popular response, “I know, Mom.” And as much as it bugs them and you’ll probably sound like a broken record like I do, remind your teenaged daughter of these rules every time she goes out.
I can tell you firsthand it works. My daughter has gotten into the habit of calling me whenever she leaves or arrives to school, work, a store, or when she’s out with friends and I feel a lot better knowing where she’s at and that she’s safe.
What advice have you given your teen about going out? Share that with us in the comments section below.