On Thursday, August 24th, my life changed forever. After a 12-year battle with diabetes, my mother passed away that morning.
And as if that didn’t punch the family in the gut hard enough, we also had a hurricane named Harvey which brought a lot of wind and rain and caused flooding in and around our city.
As if things couldn’t get worse, my mom’s funeral services had to be pushed back. And then we had to change the location because the funeral home took in 4 inches of water.
Needless to say, my mojo went on the fritz and my depression kicked in.
I think what depressed me more was the fact that my mother wasn’t resting peacefully. Thankfully it all worked out. We were able to find another church and laid my mom to rest on September 4th.
As I write this post, it’s Tuesday, September 5th. It’s the first day I am making an attempt to get a back to my regular schedule and well, it’s harder than I thought it would be. It’s like I have zero motivation to do anything let alone get out of bed.
Before today, I would sit at my desk to try to get back to business – life in general, really. But it felt weird. It was the first time I realized that my mom wasn’t with us anymore. And it really hit me when I was at the store and a thought crossed my mind to pick up a new vata for mom – that’s a Spanish slang for mumu.
Friends and family have told me this phase will pass. But right now it feels like that time will never come.
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After allowing myself some time to grieve my mom and start the healing process, slowly but surely I have found the motivation to get back to business and finish this post.
So, how am I getting over this dark phase? First, I had to get in the right mindset. I had to dig deep inside and tell myself “it’s time to get out of this funk.”
That’s not all I did. Here are some other things I’m doing to find my motivation and if you’re struggling with finding your groove, doing this may be helpful you too.
Think of what my mom would say
I remind myself that my mom wouldn’t want me to be this way. She would want me to keep chasing my dream and stop at nothing until I get there. Plus she wouldn’t want to be the reason why I was off on my game anyway. She would say something like “ooh noo, you better not quit girlfriend.”
Yep, my mom was that cool.
So whoever your cheerleader is, think of what they would say to you for motivation.
Think of your why
I’m also reminding myself why I started my online business in the first place and how far I’ve come from when I started blogging.
Whenever you feel like you’ve lost your mojo, think of your why.
It also helps to think about the milestones and achievements.
Hang on to friends and family
I’ve heard when there is a death in the family that it tends to bring the rest of the family members closer.
I believe this to be true.
Thank goodness I had my family and friends to lean on. When I stood at the podium to thank our family for their support, I was blown away by all the people there. I cried more because I didn’t realize how many people loved her.
You can also look to your community. And my online fam was right there with me. You don’t know how much your condolences meant to me! Bren and Dana I can’t thank you two enough for being there for me!
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Lean hard on my faith
Yes, during this time I’m relying on my faith to get me through this phase. I take comfort in knowing she is no longer suffering and that I’ll see her again one day.
So if you’re motivation is lackluster like mine has been lately, take hold of your faith or whatever it is that brings you peace.
Just get back to work
Sometimes all it takes is getting back to work in order to find your motivation again. So that’s what I did. I threw myself back into work and I was able to finish this post, catch up on my email and I even took on a couple new projects.
Over to You
So that’s how I found the motivation to blog again. Right now, the wave comes and goes but for the most part, I feel like I’m ready to get back to work.
If there is anything I hope you take away from this post is that yes, the pain is real and it’s hard. But if you give it time, it does get better – especially if you have a reason or two or three to keep going.
What do you do to find your motivation? Tell us what works for you in the comments below.
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