Hello dear reader.
I’ve been thinking whether or not I should write this post for a while now. Lately it feels like I’ve been doing these types of posts all year. I was putting the final touches on another post about a tutorial for new bloggers. But, once again, it didn’t work out that way and nothing was published.
And that’s what made me decide to publish this one instead. So that I can explain my absence and share what’s been going on in my life lately.
Back in July I wrote a post called How to Make Time for Blogging. I shared what I personally do to make time to blog like working working on the weekends or at night. Only lately, I’m opting for sleep instead of work.
While these tips have worked for me in the past, what’s happening at home now is taking most of my time and energy. And now I find that blogging has taken a back seat – temporarily.
I’m sure you’ve noticed by now my blogging schedule has been all over the map. One month I’m consistent with my schedule and the next, well, I pretty much suck at it. Especially this month because it feels like I’ve all but fallen off the face of the blog-o-sphere.
It’s not that I’ve lost my love for blogging or that I’m just kicking back taking it easy. If only it were that. My time lately has been spent with my mother who is seriously ill.Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. Steve Jobs #quoteClick To Tweet
Mom has been living with diabetes for over ten years. Accept this year it has finally taken a toll on her. Her overall health seems to be declining and she’s been in and out of the hospital all year long.
Back in February, she was having trouble walking and started complaining about pain and discomfort. We took her to see her doctor and he found there was no circulation on her left leg. The doctor had to perform a bypass on that leg to allow blood to circulate and avoid amputation.
The surgery went well but several months later, we discovered an open wound on my mother’s right foot so back to the doctor we went. Sadly, the doctor was unable to close and heal the wound and in August her right leg was amputated from the knee down.
She spent the rest of the month in the hospital and in September she was transferred to a medical resort for elderly patients to complete her rehabilitation. That was unsuccessful after only three weeks into her residency.
I called her one morning to ask how she was doing and she immediately told me she wanted to come home. It turns out she was not being taken care of properly and after hearing what she told me, she was home later that afternoon – but not before I bitched out the Director!
Since then, my days have been spent taking care of my mother, calling doctors and other health care providers to ensure she gets the follow up care she needs. And throughout the day I’m called over to give her meds, help her sit up, check her vitals and ensure she’s eating right.
Earlier this month we finally found someone to help us with my mother’s care but my mom still wants me to be there with her…and how am I going to say no to mom?
Last Friday, she started complaining about pain in her left leg. And as if things couldn’t be challenging enough, just yesterday, I found out my father’s arthritis has now spread throughout his body and there’s nothing the doctor can do but provide pain management.
Until my siblings and I figure out the best way to take care of our parents, this is now my new normal. How long, I can’t tell for sure but what I can say is this that I won’t say “next month” because I tried that and well, here we are.
The one silver lining in all of this is the fact that I’m working from home and am my own boss. I don’t have to ask permission to take time off to take care of my parents. But I do have a blogging community that means the world to me, which is why I wanted to update you on what’s been going on lately.There are three constants in life - change, choice and principles. Stephen Covey #quoteClick To Tweet
And speaking of blogging community…
To my visitors, I want to apologize for not posting work-from-home jobs and blogging tips lately. I want you to know I how much I appreciate you for coming by the blog and for your comments. I know I’m behind in replying to you – one of the major blogging no-no’s but I promise you I will get to them soon!
To my fellow bloggers – thank you so much for your continued support. You have no idea how bad I feel because I haven’t been by your blog as often as I’d love to. I know you understand family comes first but in a sense, you are my virtual family and I want to apologize to you as well. Much love, respect and admiration!
I also want to thank Bren of Designs by Virtual Bren and Dana of I Am My Imagination. Ladies, you have been my rock in all of this. Thank you for always hearing me out and for all your advice. You’re the best!
Phew…I feel better now that I’ve actually put it on paper – or on my word doc. Like I said in my other post about finding time to blog, I’m in no way giving up. I just have to take some time to ensure my parents are comfortable and a plan is in place for their long term care. But I will take advantage of any free time to jump online and catch up with you all!
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog post. I appreciate each and every one of you!
All the best!